There’s a money struggle almost no one admits out loud — yet nearly every woman carries it.

It’s not overspending. It’s not budgeting. It’s not discipline or willpower.

It’s receiving.

Not just receiving money. Not just receiving gifts. But receiving anything.

Compliments. Help. Support. Generosity. Acts of service. Ease. Kindness. Being poured into instead of always pouring out.

For many women, receiving doesn’t feel good.

It feels… unsafe.

When Someone Offers You Something

Notice what happens in your body when someone offers you help, a gift, or generosity.

Your mind might immediately respond with thoughts like:

• “I don’t deserve this.”
• “I don’t want to feel indebted.”
• “What if they expect something in return?”
• “I don’t want to look weak.”
• “This is too much.”
• “I can’t accept that.”
• “No, really — you don’t have to.”

You shrink. You deflect. You explain. You push it away.

You reject small blessings while praying for bigger ones.

And then you wonder why money struggles to stay, grow, or flow toward you.

The Truth No One Talks About

Your ability to receive is directly connected to your ability to earn.

If receiving a small gesture feels uncomfortable, receiving larger financial blessings will feel even harder.

If generosity makes your nervous system tense, abundance will too.

If you can’t hold a compliment without deflecting, it becomes difficult to hold more wealth, more opportunities, more visibility, more ease.

Receiving is not a financial skill.

It’s an emotional wound.

Where the Receiving Wound Comes From

For many women, this wound was formed early.

It often comes from:

• being raised to be the giver
• being the caretaker in the family
• believing love must be earned
• watching generosity be weaponized
• being shamed for wanting anything
• being told “don’t be a burden”
• being responsible for everyone else’s emotions
• not being allowed to have needs
• not feeling safe with expectations
• experiencing betrayal or abandonment
• being punished for asking for help

Over time, the body learns a powerful rule:

“If I receive, I’m not safe.”

That belief doesn’t stay in childhood.

It follows you into adulthood — into your relationships, your career, your business, your pricing, your ability to ask, your ability to earn.

The Empowering Part

This wound can be healed.

And when it is, everything around money begins to shift.

Women who learn to receive without guilt often find that they:

• raise their prices without fear
• stop over giving to prove their worth
• stop tolerating less than they deserve
• allow support instead of carrying everything alone
• stop feeling “too much” for wanting ease or abundance
• stop sabotaging money opportunities
• feel calmer and safer around wealth

Because they are no longer rejecting the very thing they’ve been praying for.

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What’s Coming Next

In the next post, we’ll explore another pattern that’s deeply connected to this wound:

The Overspending → Self-Abandonment Cycle Why overspending is almost never about money — and almost always about emotional safety.

If this resonated, you’re going to see yourself in that one too.

And if you're ready to start healing your money wounds at the root, apply now to work with me in my 6 Week Money Healing Intensive. Click here for more details. ​

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Sa'Diyya