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You’re intelligent. Capable. Hardworking. You’ve read the books. Taken the courses. Tried to “do the right things.” Yet money still feels like a struggle and you're unsure of what to do. If you earn money but it doesn’t stay… If you know what to do, but can’t seem to follow through… If every financial breakthrough is followed by an invisible pullback… Let me say this clearly: You’re not alone. And you’re not broken. What’s Really Going On Beneath the SurfaceThe women who resonate with this work are often some of the most capable people I know. Highly intelligent. Deeply self-aware. Successful on paper. And yet… stuck in money patterns they cannot seem to outgrow. Here’s what that actually looks like. Sarah was a successful marketing consultant earning six figures. From the outside, everything looked solid. But every time money came in, it mysteriously disappeared. A sudden emergency. An impulsive purchase. A loan to a family member. She couldn’t understand why she was disciplined everywhere else in her life, but with money, she felt completely out of control. When we traced it back, the pattern became obvious. Growing up, her mother always said, “Money burns a hole in your pocket.” Her father hid any extra income so relatives wouldn’t ask for help. Sarah’s nervous system learned one thing early on: holding money was dangerous. Letting it go felt safer than keeping it. And that's exactly why money never stayed for long. And until Sarah works on healing this pattern, she will keep repeating it. Rachel had three degrees and ran a thriving therapy practice. She was respected and highly skilled. But every time she thought about raising her rates, she froze. She’d rehearse the conversation for weeks, then apologize and keep her prices the same. She told herself she just needed more confidence. But the real root was much older. At eight years old, she once asked her stressed single mother for dance lessons—and saw panic flash across her face. In that moment, Rachel learned: asking for what I want causes pain to people I love. Thirty years later, she was still living out that belief—undercharging, over-delivering, and quietly resenting it. Jen noticed that every time she approached a new income level, something went wrong. She’d get sick before a launch. Pick a fight with her business partner. Make a costly mistake that set her back months. She called herself self-sabotaging. But when we looked deeper, the pattern revealed itself. In her family, no one had ever exceeded her father’s income. The unspoken rule was clear: stay small, stay loyal, stay safe. Her nervous system wasn’t failing her. It was protecting her from the belief that success meant betrayal. Do You See the Pattern?Your relationship with money wasn’t formed in adulthood. It was formed in childhood. In the family system you grew up in. In the survival stories passed down through generations. In the emotional environment that taught you what was safe—and what wasn’t. Long before you could articulate it, you absorbed beliefs like:
Those beliefs didn’t disappear just because you grew up. They became the invisible operating system running your financial life. My Own Turning PointJust over eight years ago, I was a stay-at-home mom, financially dependent on an abusive husband and convinced I didn’t have what it took to support myself or my children. I had absorbed every limiting story about what was possible for someone like me. Fast forward to today. A few months ago, I sold my six-figure coaching business. In the final month alone, I earned just over $20,000. And here’s the part that matters most: That shift did not come from learning secret marketing strategies. It didn’t come from working harder or “being more disciplined.” It came from healing the roots of my money blocks. Until that happened, no amount of strategy would have worked. This Is Where Real Change BeginsMoney struggles aren’t a mindset problem. They’re not a budgeting problem. And they’re certainly not a willpower problem. They’re a nervous system and identity problem. When those roots shift, behavior changes naturally. Effort softens. Capacity expands. Money stops feeling like a battle. And that’s exactly the work I guide women through. Ready to Change Your Relationship with Money at the Root?If this resonated, and you can feel that something deeper is at play in your financial life, I’d love to support you. My Money Healing Intensive Coaching Program is for women who are done trying to “fix” their money problems on the surface—and are ready for deep, lasting transformation. This is not about budgets or hustle. It’s about unraveling the unconscious patterns running your financial life and rebuilding safety, capacity, and self-trust around money. I work with a very small group of women who are ready to do this depth of work around uncovering and healing their inherited money stories inside an intimate coaching container. I take on no more than 5 clients at a time. 👉 If you’re ready to understand what’s really been driving your money patterns—and finally change them at the root, find out more and apply for the Money Healing Intensive Coaching Program here. You don’t need to become someone new. You just need to release what was never yours to carry in the first place. And from there… everything changes. |
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